10 Ways to make a ‘Magnetic’ First Impression

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10 Easy Ways to Make a Magnetic First Date Impression

These are based on heavy research of my own as well as proven characteristics of personal “Magnetism” and Attraction! There are obviously many more components that go into a positive first impression, but here are my top 10.

The Greeting: Be on time! You’d be amazed how much punctuality really does affect first impressions. Have a Firm handshake! How is yours? Is it like a cold fish? Girls: avoid the “prissy princess” handshake, which exudes entitlement.

Men: When you greet her at the start of your date, give her a hug and kiss her on the check; this opens the door right from the get-go and sets the precedent for later.

Ladies: Reach over to his door and unlock his door. He will be highly impressed by this courteous and rare move.

Seating: If you’re a guy, you want to sit across from her, facing the people in the restaraunt so she is obligated to sit facing you, away from the clientele and staff of the restaurant. You want your date’s attention on YOU, not the waiter. And if you can control it, sit at a 90 degree right angle. Research has shown that his seating arrangement generates the most attraction and rapport.

Men: Pay Attention to the Details, your Surroundings, and Her Body Language. Pick up on cues and Take the Lead. For instance, if you notice that there’s no water on the table yet and it’s been a few minutes, seek out the waiter. If the waiter seems to have forgotten about you, If you’re both antsy for another glass of wine and it’s she hasn’t come by for a refill, take charge and handle the situation. Most often men either aren’t observant enough to notice when these things happen, or they will notice but won’t do anything about it; then us women are left feelings uncomfortable going up and fending for ourselves because we are trying to look demure, and so we sit there annoyed and thinking how much of a wuss our date is.

Be Conscious of Eye Contact: Make good eye-contact. Look into your date’s eyes about 70% of the time, and look away about 30% (about every 7 seconds or so you glance to the side).  Never looking away is creepy, but the longer your eye contact, the more self-esteem & confidence you are perceived to have.

Pacing & Matching: “Match” your date’s mannerisms and voice tone. Speak at their pace and volume level. Matching another person’s body language and speech has been proven to build tremendous instant rapport and attraction!

Men: Project your voice and show decisiveness. Lead her (making the moves for when to order, what to order, whether to order a bottle of wine or a glass, whether to have dessert or not, etc.) Show a Genuine Focus on the Other. Actively encourage others to talk about themselves, and respond genuinely — without bringing it back to yourself. Avoid monopolizing the conversation.

Use Positivity & certainty in your language and phrases, not negativity and doubt. Use phrases like “Absolutely” and “Definitely” and “Yes” vs. “Maybe,” or  “Probably,” or  “I think so.” This is perceived to exude much more confidence and esteem.

Look at your date’s pupil size to determine level of Attraction: Enlarged pupils indicate a high-level of attraction; small pupils typically indicate indifference or dislike. This is one of the most accurate indicators of interest, so use it to your advantage.

Leave at the Peak of Interest. Don’t wait for conversation to get stale or till you run out of things to say. Make your exit on a high note and your date will be “crying out for more.”

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