Take Your Relationship to the Next Level (New!)

by Jay Cataldo, Special Guest Expert of the Week!

Sometimes, the only thing worse than being single is being trapped in a go-nowhere relationship. If the frustration is mounting because your man still hasn’t popped the question, then keep reading….. because I’m about to share with you one of my best tips for enticing a man to sweep you off your feet and carry you right to the altar. (The following article is an excerpt from my free report “Operation Engagement” which you can download HERE)

While it’s totally acceptable for a woman to say to her partner something like, “Sometimes I just don’t feel that you truly value and appreciate me,” it’s difficult for most men to express the same sentiment, since they may consider discussing their feelings to be “girly” or unmanly.

But just because your man may be embarrassed to fully express himself doesn’t mean he isn’t starved for praise and appreciation – especially from the woman he loves.

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Just as little girls enjoy pretending to be queens and princesses, almost every man on the planet has had fantasies of ruling over an imaginary kingdom. And just like how you may still occasionally fantasize about being seduced by a real-life prince charming, the desire to pick up a sword and take his rightful place on the throne is still churning beneath the surface in every man.

Here’s where it gets interesting… if you have the ability to make your man feel like a king, you’ll be rewarded with an all-access pass to the deepest recesses of his heart. In fact, this is one of the most powerful seduction techniques of all time used by the world’s greatest seductresses to flat-out mesmerize the opposite sex.

A good friend of mine has mastered this technique, and from doing just this alone, she has received marriage proposals from her last four boyfriends: an investment banker, a partner in an accounting firm, a doctor and a self-made millionaire who lives in a castle (yes, a real castle). And when asked about her secret, she just replies, “All I do is make my boyfriends feel like they’re the king of the world.”

One of the reasons this technique is so devastatingly powerful is because it plays to the hidden dreams and desires that all men have had inside of them since childhood. But another reason is the fact that it’s so incredibly rare to come across a woman who knows how to make a man feel this way!

This is a big one, so I’ll say it again:

If you know how to make a man feel like a king, you’ll easily set yourself apart from the crowd.

You’d be surprised, but I can count on one hand the amount of girls I’ve dated who knew how to do this, and I’ve had plenty of women in my life. However, once you master this skill, you’ll be able to make your man feel so incredibly amazing that he’ll literally become addicted to the good feelings that your presence will bring him.

At this point, no matter how many tanned, toned beach bunnies compete to steal him away, you’ll have nothing to worry about since a man will always choose the woman who makes him feel the way he wants to feel, regardless of her physical beauty or social status. This is an easy way to keep him interested in you over the long haul.

Now please keep in mind that there’s an art to doing this, which goes beyond serving a man his favorite beer in a 48oz goblet and throwing rose petals down at his feet. However, it’s not rocket science either, and with a little instruction and a bit of practice, you can easily unleash the sexy siren inside of you.

I recommend that you get in the habit of praising your man in three key areas:

1. His accomplishments
2. The way he makes you feel
3. His sexual performance

Just this simple step alone will bring so much happiness and good energy to your relationship that you’ll be amazed by the results. To make this even more effective, please keep the following pointers in mind: praise often, but not too often… and never let it become predictable or seem contrived. You should also mean what you say and be sure to put emotion behind your words.

Note: It’s a good idea to hold off on going full steam ahead with this strategy until you’re in a serious relationship, since you could end up scaring off a guy you’re just casually dating.

That’s all for now. Get out there and make it happen.

-Jay Cataldo

Jay Cataldo is a New York life coach and relationship book author who was recently ranked the #1 life coach on Twitter.com. Jay splits his time between his coaching practice and his latest project: DefinitiveDiva.com – a multi-faceted resource which offers expert advice for women in the areas of dating, relationships, business, beauty, health, fitness and more. Jay is known for his top notch tips on how to save a relationship, as well as getting quick and lasting results for his clients all around the world (via webcam).

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5 Sales Principles to use for Dating Success!

5 Sales Principles to use for Greater Dating Success! By DeAnna Lorraine

Sales, Marketing & Dating are actually very much alike. Here are 5 of the many valuable principles you can use to yield greater success in your dating life!

1. The First & most essential step in Sales: Doing your ‘Market Research:’ Who’s your ideal prospect? You need to identify who’s your ideal romantic prospect too, or else you’ll always just be shooting in the dark and continuously dating the wrong people!

1. Creating a concrete Business & Marketing Plan – if you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. You absolutely need to have a plan or else you’ll never get there! So when finding a relationship – you’ve got to have a ‘Romantic Marketing Plan’ (contact me if you want help in creating this). It outlines where you need to go to meet your ideal romantic prospects, when you’ll go, what you need to do to attract them, and so on. This will save you a lot of time & mistakes, believe me.

1. Knowing your own “Market Value,” & finding ways to increase it. For dating, it’s knowing your own “Romantic Market Value,” and working on continuously increasing it so you can attract a better partner.

1. Believing in your Product. If you don’t believe in your product, aka YOU, then you certainly cannot sell it! It is imperative to your dating success that you develop a strong inner confidence, because that is the foundation.

1. Having the right Energy & Confidence to Sell the Product. You’ve got to exude that magnetic energy in order to persuade someone to buy, or in our case, date, you!

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Make yourself Memorable

Ways to Make yourself More Memorable with Men

DeAnna Lorraine

Most girls that men come across fall into the category of “replaceable.” They don’t stand out. Some of these common, “predictable” behaviors in women are:

•    Dumb, dull, and don’t have a lot of insight to contribute
•    Once they like him they confess their all their feelings & get all ‘mushy.’
•    Make themselves too available
•    Sleep with them early on
•    Wrap themselves up in him & don’t have a life or friends outside of him
•    Act really jealous and possessive and clingy and needy
•    Are not emotionally stable
•    Lose themselves in them, then become predictable, boring & unattractive.

Men come across girls like these so often that they almost assume that new women they encounter are going to follow this trend. And, sadly, most girls will. But that’s good news for you, because YOU will be different. That’s because you’ve got me on your side to give you some pointers, as men and ex-boyfriends have deemed me so ‘memorable’ that they could “never find another girl like me again” so “marry me now, damnit!” (yes, every man I’ve ever dated has told me this . So, you’re going to catch him by surprise. And that’s what he’s waiting for, for some girl to be totally different, refreshing and ‘finally’ be something worth changing for and working for!  So in order to not get tossed in this ‘replaceable’ bin within 5 weeks, you’ve therefore got to make yourself MEMORABLE to him. How do you become memorable? Well, first, don’t do any of those things above. Just Now making yourself more memorable will actually involve some inner soul searching to answer these questions and create this attitude.

• What makes you YOU? What sets you apart from the dozens of other women that cross a man’s path every day? What makes you so great to date, anyhow? Define & list your valuable assets.
• What things/traits/qualities/talents do you have to offer someone?
• What interests & hobbies do you have that make you more dynamic?

Take some time to think about this and even write down some answers; this will help strengthen and distinguish your unique identity. They say like attracts like. That means, ‘dull attracts dull,’ and ‘amazing attracts amazing.’ If you’re going after a man who’s vibrant and charismatic and interesting and diverse, you had better be all of those things too! Or else, don’t be disappointed if he isn’t very interested without you making some improvements yourself. Bring something different and of value to the table so he sees that you are stand out from other women. In the most subtle form, don’t be a bump on a log when he’s talking to you. Be witty, offer some interesting insights, challenge his views a little, don’t be too agreeable.

At a deeper level, work to actually become a more genuinely interesting person. Start by taking an honest inventory of your life and activities and friends and even personality traits. How does it fare? Is there anything you wish you were more of, or anything you’d like to expand or add to your life? Maybe you wish you were more funny or interesting? Then work on it. Read more books, watch and read the news every day, work on expanding your vocabulary. Maybe your life just consists of work and friends and you want to add more elements to it. Well, then go do it. Perhaps take up a salsa dancing class or join a hiking group or learn Italian or travel. My point is, the best way to attract your ‘dream man’ is by being that dream partner yourself that has all the qualities that you are seeking. By adding new things to your life, you’ll become a more dynamic & interesting person will have more to talk about on dates and you’ll have more value to bring to the table, which will in turn help to set you apart from other women he comes across. Men are motivated to commit to a woman who excites them. They dump women who bore them. They are infatuated with the spontaneous, adventurous woman. Not the predictable, safe woman. So if you’ve had a string of relationships that seem to share the common theme of a man cheating on you, dumping you, or not wanting to commit to you…perhaps you should evaluate what motivating, exciting factors you have (or are lacking) that drive a man to commitment.

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How to make your Dream Man Want You

How to Make your Dream Man Want You

Rochelle Cranberry

As I was sitting there chatting with my best guy friend I had to know what the secrets are, from a mans perspective, as to how women can get the guy they dream about being with to not only notice them, but also want to be with them. Let me just tell you that this guy friend of mine is a very handsome man and a great catch for any woman out there. Here is some of the great dating advice for woman that he helped me come up with.

The first key to getting your dream man to want you is to know how to act and look. The most effective and attractive quality for anybody to possess is self confidence. This is why men that are not ready for commitment prey on women with low self esteem. They are easy to manipulate. A man that is ready for a serious commitment does not want a woman like this because it is just not an attractive quality.

You need to have confidence in yourself and you have to know that you are attractive. You can help yourself out by dressing in a way that makes you feel sexy and you should do anything else you have to including make up and hair to make yourself feel attractive. You also have to get an attitude that you know you look good, but not so much that you come across as arrogant.

The second thing you must do is work on that personality. It is not going to help you to be fake, but you must be pleasant and not be the type to put any pressure on a man. Too many women put pressure on themselves because they are so concerned with finding that perfect guy that the man they are after senses this and gets scared. You cannot be thinking about marriage or even a serious relationship when all you are doing is having a pleasant conversation with a man. Let it be what it is and if it turns into more great, if not move on to the next man.

Last, you have to separate yourself from the pack. My best guy friend said that this is the best dating advice for woman he could ever give. Men do not want to approach a group of women, and they will wait until you are by yourself to make their move. This is because they don’t want to be rejected in front of an audience and they know you are less likely to be influenced by what your friends think if you are by yourself.

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The Art of Holding Back

The Art of Holding Back to Gain Men’s Respect

In order to truly attract men, you must always remember your high value and remember to hold yourself in high value. This means that since something of high value is ‘not easily attained,’ you’ve got to hold back in the beginning of relationships. Hold back a little on confessing your feelings toward him. Hold back from making plans so readily with him or being so accommodating and available. Hold back from sexual behaviors as well. Don’t let him ‘get’ you so easily. Remember, the girl he’s going to be inspired to commit to is the girl that gives him a good chase, that makes him work for it (but demonstrates enough value so that that ‘it’ is worth him working for)  And that girl should be none other than you. You are valuable enough of a ‘prize’ for him to work for. So demonstrate that.

Demonstrate the Art of High Value & Holding Back by:

-Having healthy boundaries & tactfully letting him know when he’s crossed them
-Emotionally and with your Feelings. Not exclaiming that you’re ‘gaga’ over him in the     beginning; leaving him guessing a little.
-Holding back sexually in the beginning
-Retaining your ‘Mystery’ element. Not letting him totally figure you out yet.
-Holding back with your Availability – Establishing your Scarcity

Aside from just holding yourself back because you truly are valuable, holding yourself back a little also retains that sense of mystery. And having a sense of mystery is one of the key ingredients that creates—and sustains—attraction. Mystery intrigues us. Giving yourself up too easily or making it known that you like him so quickly diminishes any sense of mystery for him. If he knows he’s got you gaga already or if he knows he’s got you all figured out, then what more is there for him to work for? Would the game hide-and-go-seek be any fun at all if at the first sign of the seeker’s difficulty, you pop out and reveal yourself? No, that ruins the fun! And isn’t that quiet guy at your work just a little more sexy because you don’t know what he’s all about?  So, holding back a little and giving that sense of elusiveness not only increases your perceived value, it enhances that mystery element that makes him want you that much more. Holding back gives guys that guesswork and challenge and mental stimulation that they love and crave. That ‘does she or doesn’t she want me’ triggers excitement for him, and holding back is the fuel that drives men wild with strategies to win you over. The key is to always leave him wanting more.

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Win Back your ex-Boyfriend

How to Win Back your ex-Boyfriend

Jason B. Hann

Do you want to win back your ex boyfriend? If you have already broken up with your ex boyfriend but you still love him very much, chances are you really want to win him back.

However, there may be many obstacles that you will face when trying to win your ex boyfriend back. There may be some resistance from your ex boyfriend that you will have to overcome.

With that said, the situation may not be as bleak as it seems. The fact is, even though break up seems to getting more and more common, most people still manage to save their relationships. Chances are, you can too.

If you want to win your ex boyfriend back, it will be very good and useful if you understand this principle, “People want what they do not have”.

This principle might seem overly simplistic but it is very true, not only in your relationship, but also in other areas of your life. Quite likely, you have already heard of this principle at some point of your life.

Even if you have not heard of it before, the meaning of this principle should be pretty obvious. When people cannot get the things they want easily, their desire for it will usually be much greater.

The contrary is also very true. If you can get something easily, you may even start to take things for granted and even push it away.

That is why you do not want to do things that make you appear desperate to your boyfriend. For example, you do not want to call your ex boyfriend 100 times per day.

Desperate behavior is a sign to your boyfriend that he can get you back easily. Therefore, you should be aware of them. You want to win back your boyfriend but you do not want to show desperation in the process of winning your boyfriend back.

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10 Lessons from Sex and City

10 Dating Lessons Ladies can learn from Sex & the City

By DeAnna Lorraine

Carrie, Charlotte, Samantha and Miranda have in the last decade become icons of the quintessential single woman in the city on her quest for love. Entertaining as the series is however, the legendary icons can also offer us valuable advice about finding love. The characters and their experiences exemplify many of the very real dilemmas and challenges modern-day women face while dating. And if we actually stop and read between the Manolo Blahniks, women can genuinely learn some very life and dating lessons from them.

1. Always take an assertive stance on your dating & love life. The women of Sex have wisely illustrated that sitting at home wishing and waiting for Mr. Right is not going to bring him any close to your doorstep, but actively going out and searching for potential partners while filling your lives up with things you truly enjoy will yield success at a much faster rate. So ladies, take their example and start taking initiative on your dating life—because unfortunately, we’re not getting any younger.

1. Always maintain your friendships, hobbies, & “single life” rituals. No matter if they were single or married, busy or broke, the women of Sex always kept in close contact with each other and continued to have ‘ladies nights,’ ice cream in the park, and breakfasts together on a regular basis.  Keeping up your rituals with friends and yourself even when you’re dating someone new is healthy and vital for our independence and sense of self. Avoid the temptation to lose yourself in your partner and remember to put aside time for your other activities, friends and your solo self.

1. Recognize & learn from past patterns and mistakes. Carrie was addicted to the unavailable jerks. Samantha was a commitment-phobe and Miranda pushed men away. We all have our personal, often unconscious dating patterns and habits that hold us back from a healthy, successful relationship. Especially with women in their 30’s and 40’s where bad dating habits are harder to break, it’s important to discover our own personal patterns and stop ourselves when we start falling back into them.

1. Don’t fall into the “Potential” trap. Charlotte unrealistically believed Trey would bring her the white-picket marriage and family she dreamed of, and Carrie kept returning to Big because she hoped she could change him and make him commit. But getting involved in a relationship or staying with someone based on their ‘potential’ to be all the things you want them to be is perilous and will usually only lead to great disappointment down the road when reality doesn’t match your hopeful expectations.

1. Listen to your friends’ intuitions. I believe you should always make your own decisions in relationships and follow your own heart, but in cases where most of your friends have strong feelings of concern or dislike about someone you’re dating, it might behoove you to look into it and take heed to it.

1. Don’t mistake ‘attachment’ for real love. Repeated physical and sexual contact with someone will inevitably create psychological attachment, whether that person is right for us or not. But attachment toward someone often tricks the brain and may cloud the reality of the real person in front of us and whether or not they truly are good for us. We may overlook red flags and warning signs of incompatibility as a result. It’s essential to distinguish between feelings of sheer attachment to a person, and those of actual love and compatibility, because they are indeed different and in the end it’s only real love that’s going to pull the relationship.

1. Don’t Fall into the “Marathon Relationship.” We’ve all seen how the ladies have one stints with men that turn into a weekend that merges right along into an inseparable relationship. It’s tempting to slide right into a monogamous relationship right away, especially when you experience intense chemistry with them; but moving too fast, too soon usually only causes the spark to extinguish faster.

1. Be clear about what specific qualities you want in a partner as well as those that you simply cannot have in a man. The women on Sex were often traveling blindly toward a destination, not identifying (and sticking to) exactly what they wanted and kept getting involved with men that were wrong for them as a result. This kind of ‘aimless dating’ wastes a lot of time and energy, and can be easily prevented by honing in on what qualities and traits you really want in your future life partner and what qualities are ‘deal-breakers’ for you. The more refined your list, the easier your search will be and the less time you will waste with the wrong ones.

1. Don’t be the one putting all the effort into a relationship. If you feel like you are pulling the weight of the relationship and giving much more than your partner, (ahem, Carrie and Big) it’s usually a sign of a power imbalance and can lead to a dysfunctional relationship. The effort should always be as close to 50/50 as possible with both sides equally giving and receiving, and if that is not the case, it may be time to pull back and reassess the relationship.

1. Never underestimate what your best girlfriends, a Cosmopolitan, and a gigantic tub of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream can do for your mood. Nothing compares to true support and female camaraderie, as the ladies of Sex & the City do best!

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