Love Styles (& Lessons) of the Rich & Famous

Which Love Style are YOU?

1. Jennifer Anniston:
1. Her Love Style? Nice… but Plain, Predictable, and Bor-ing! Aka, “Replaceable.”
2. Lesson Learned: Make sure YOU are not just the ‘ordinary,’ replaceable girl. Be conscious of when you may be becoming predictable and boring in your relationships; Mix it up, and find ways to stand out from other women.

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2. Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt:
1. Brangelina’s Love Style: Exciting, Mysterious, Fun & Unpredictable! The ideal ingredients for a long-lasting, passionate relationship. The only concern here is that there are so many children that they will become the sole focus and the relationship will merely become “all about the kids.”
2. Lesson Learned: Either you’re growing together or you’re growing apart. Make a commitment to regularly try new things with your partner, challenge each other, learn & grow upwards together. Don’t fall into the trap of letting your kids become the sole focus of your lives rather than your relationship with your lover.

3. Leonardo DiCaprio:
1. Love Style: The “Packaging Trap.” Focused primarily on the outside “packaging” without looking very far into the inside. Only dates Supermodels and gorgeous women, but in the end, has nothing to show for them.
2. Lessons Learned: Grow up & get over the ego-boost of having a beautiful trophy girl on your arm and start seeking out partners that you’re compatible with at a deeper level if you actually want a long-lasting, genuine relationship & connection.

4. Kristin Cavallari, Kate Hudson, Jude Law:
1. Love Style: The Magnetic Players: They never have a shortage of dates, enjoy keeping their options open, and are independent, fun, alluring and magnetic!
2. Lesson Learned: When you have a carefree & fun approach to dating and an abundance attitude rather than a scarcity mindset, you will literally act as a “magnet” to others & attract an abundance of options! (See my website for more on adopting the “abundance attitude” & eliminating the “Scarcity” mindset)

5. Will Smith & Jada Pinkett; Barack & Michelle Obama:
1. Their Love Style: “Powerful, Passionate Partnership.” These couples are Best Friends, Power Partners and Supportive Lovers. They embody that of a true complimentary partnership comprised of strong, powerful men and equally strong, assertive women but who balance each other out and challenge each other but without any power struggle. They still have fun together & also understand the importance of keeping the romance alive through regular “Date Nights” and alone time.
2. Lesson Learned: Support each other’s goals and dreams, act as a team, and be friends and lovers. Be sure to maintain your romantic connection through the craziness of your lives through regular bonding activities like Date Nights and romantic getaways.

6. Jessica Simpson:
1. Love Style: Smothering, Clingy, and Wears her Heart on her Sleeve! She is always gushing about her boyfriends, and never leaves her feelings to imagination. In recent interview calling Tony Romo her “future husband,” and immersing herself in the men she dates.
2. Lesson Learned: Avoid wearing your heart on your sleeve and don’t offer up all your feelings in the beginning of the relationship, especially when your partner has not yet expressed his/hers. Whenever you’re tempted to gush about how much you like your new love interest, take a breath, hold it back, and wait. Mystery is key to building attraction.

7. Justin Timberlake:
1. Love Style: “The Serial Monogamist.” JT drifts from one long-term relationship right on into the next and then the next, without ever any time just spent being single and figuring out what he really wants. This wastes a lot of time.
2. Lesson learned: You should know within the first 6 months (1 year at the most) whether or not this person has got wife or husband potential for you; and if it’s been longer than 6 months or a year and you’re still “on the fence” about her/him, still not certain whether she/he is the one….99% of the time, she/he’s not. So break it off sooner and don’t draw it out.

8. Jon & Kate ( + 8 ) :
1. Love Style: Imbalanced, Unhealthy and Manipulative! Kate is far too controlling and manipulative and clearly wears the “pants,” while Jon is far too passive and weak; years of her controlling him and all their decisions with him never asserting himself has resulted in a deflated man, and dysfunctional relationship where the children are the sole focus, and eventually, the marriage’s demise.
2. Lesson Learned: Kate pushed her desires on Jon, and coerced him into doing things he didn’t really want( like having more kids); Women, if you push something on a man that doesn’t really want it but is doing it just to please you, it’s not going to result in a positive outcome. And men, if you don’t really want something, you need to speak up and assert yourself and negotiate rather than giving in just to please your woman.

9. Bill & Hillary Clinton:
1. Love Style: All business & no romance, this pair’s relationship is more like that of business partners than actual lovers.
2. Lesson Learned: If you are a working couple or are in business you’re your partner, don’t get so caught up in the minutia of work and business that you forget about passion and intimacy; Remember that you are partners and lovers first and foremost, and make time to be romantic and sensual with each other. Keep your sex life alive and fresh!

10. Bella & Edward: Vampire Couple of Twilight!
1. Love Style: Dramatic, passionate and unorthodox. Bella is a strong, independent, highly intelligent and assertive woman and Edward is “all man,” They don’t have to argue or compete for the dominant role in the relationship; this is an opportunity for a strong woman be with a man strong enough for her to be vulnerable and let him take the lead.
2. Lesson Learned: Men, Edward represents what women REALLY want in a man; a strong man in and of himself, but without the need to “prove” or exert his strength; a man who takes care of and protects his woman, who is strong enough to be romantic and vulnerable, and who can create a safe haven for women to fully be themselves and reveal their vulnerabilities and desires without fearing that you’ll run away, be threatened or scared off by our emotions. Also, woman love the rare man with enough self control where his focus isn’t wrapped up solely in the end goal of sex, but he is intelligent enough to see the rewards of the long-term. Master these techniques of Edward, and you’ll be a man women won’t be able to resist!

For the full version of these tips or to schedule a Date Coaching or Hypnosis Session to enhance your dating success, simply contact me via email at Deanna@DeannaLorraine.com, or check out the rest of my website!

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Make yourself Memorable

Ways to Make yourself More Memorable with Men

DeAnna Lorraine

Most girls that men come across fall into the category of “replaceable.” They don’t stand out. Some of these common, “predictable” behaviors in women are:

•    Dumb, dull, and don’t have a lot of insight to contribute
•    Once they like him they confess their all their feelings & get all ‘mushy.’
•    Make themselves too available
•    Sleep with them early on
•    Wrap themselves up in him & don’t have a life or friends outside of him
•    Act really jealous and possessive and clingy and needy
•    Are not emotionally stable
•    Lose themselves in them, then become predictable, boring & unattractive.

Men come across girls like these so often that they almost assume that new women they encounter are going to follow this trend. And, sadly, most girls will. But that’s good news for you, because YOU will be different. That’s because you’ve got me on your side to give you some pointers, as men and ex-boyfriends have deemed me so ‘memorable’ that they could “never find another girl like me again” so “marry me now, damnit!” (yes, every man I’ve ever dated has told me this . So, you’re going to catch him by surprise. And that’s what he’s waiting for, for some girl to be totally different, refreshing and ‘finally’ be something worth changing for and working for!  So in order to not get tossed in this ‘replaceable’ bin within 5 weeks, you’ve therefore got to make yourself MEMORABLE to him. How do you become memorable? Well, first, don’t do any of those things above. Just Now making yourself more memorable will actually involve some inner soul searching to answer these questions and create this attitude.

• What makes you YOU? What sets you apart from the dozens of other women that cross a man’s path every day? What makes you so great to date, anyhow? Define & list your valuable assets.
• What things/traits/qualities/talents do you have to offer someone?
• What interests & hobbies do you have that make you more dynamic?

Take some time to think about this and even write down some answers; this will help strengthen and distinguish your unique identity. They say like attracts like. That means, ‘dull attracts dull,’ and ‘amazing attracts amazing.’ If you’re going after a man who’s vibrant and charismatic and interesting and diverse, you had better be all of those things too! Or else, don’t be disappointed if he isn’t very interested without you making some improvements yourself. Bring something different and of value to the table so he sees that you are stand out from other women. In the most subtle form, don’t be a bump on a log when he’s talking to you. Be witty, offer some interesting insights, challenge his views a little, don’t be too agreeable.

At a deeper level, work to actually become a more genuinely interesting person. Start by taking an honest inventory of your life and activities and friends and even personality traits. How does it fare? Is there anything you wish you were more of, or anything you’d like to expand or add to your life? Maybe you wish you were more funny or interesting? Then work on it. Read more books, watch and read the news every day, work on expanding your vocabulary. Maybe your life just consists of work and friends and you want to add more elements to it. Well, then go do it. Perhaps take up a salsa dancing class or join a hiking group or learn Italian or travel. My point is, the best way to attract your ‘dream man’ is by being that dream partner yourself that has all the qualities that you are seeking. By adding new things to your life, you’ll become a more dynamic & interesting person will have more to talk about on dates and you’ll have more value to bring to the table, which will in turn help to set you apart from other women he comes across. Men are motivated to commit to a woman who excites them. They dump women who bore them. They are infatuated with the spontaneous, adventurous woman. Not the predictable, safe woman. So if you’ve had a string of relationships that seem to share the common theme of a man cheating on you, dumping you, or not wanting to commit to you…perhaps you should evaluate what motivating, exciting factors you have (or are lacking) that drive a man to commitment.

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How to make your Dream Man Want You

How to Make your Dream Man Want You

Rochelle Cranberry

As I was sitting there chatting with my best guy friend I had to know what the secrets are, from a mans perspective, as to how women can get the guy they dream about being with to not only notice them, but also want to be with them. Let me just tell you that this guy friend of mine is a very handsome man and a great catch for any woman out there. Here is some of the great dating advice for woman that he helped me come up with.

The first key to getting your dream man to want you is to know how to act and look. The most effective and attractive quality for anybody to possess is self confidence. This is why men that are not ready for commitment prey on women with low self esteem. They are easy to manipulate. A man that is ready for a serious commitment does not want a woman like this because it is just not an attractive quality.

You need to have confidence in yourself and you have to know that you are attractive. You can help yourself out by dressing in a way that makes you feel sexy and you should do anything else you have to including make up and hair to make yourself feel attractive. You also have to get an attitude that you know you look good, but not so much that you come across as arrogant.

The second thing you must do is work on that personality. It is not going to help you to be fake, but you must be pleasant and not be the type to put any pressure on a man. Too many women put pressure on themselves because they are so concerned with finding that perfect guy that the man they are after senses this and gets scared. You cannot be thinking about marriage or even a serious relationship when all you are doing is having a pleasant conversation with a man. Let it be what it is and if it turns into more great, if not move on to the next man.

Last, you have to separate yourself from the pack. My best guy friend said that this is the best dating advice for woman he could ever give. Men do not want to approach a group of women, and they will wait until you are by yourself to make their move. This is because they don’t want to be rejected in front of an audience and they know you are less likely to be influenced by what your friends think if you are by yourself.

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The Art of Holding Back

The Art of Holding Back to Gain Men’s Respect

In order to truly attract men, you must always remember your high value and remember to hold yourself in high value. This means that since something of high value is ‘not easily attained,’ you’ve got to hold back in the beginning of relationships. Hold back a little on confessing your feelings toward him. Hold back from making plans so readily with him or being so accommodating and available. Hold back from sexual behaviors as well. Don’t let him ‘get’ you so easily. Remember, the girl he’s going to be inspired to commit to is the girl that gives him a good chase, that makes him work for it (but demonstrates enough value so that that ‘it’ is worth him working for)  And that girl should be none other than you. You are valuable enough of a ‘prize’ for him to work for. So demonstrate that.

Demonstrate the Art of High Value & Holding Back by:

-Having healthy boundaries & tactfully letting him know when he’s crossed them
-Emotionally and with your Feelings. Not exclaiming that you’re ‘gaga’ over him in the     beginning; leaving him guessing a little.
-Holding back sexually in the beginning
-Retaining your ‘Mystery’ element. Not letting him totally figure you out yet.
-Holding back with your Availability – Establishing your Scarcity

Aside from just holding yourself back because you truly are valuable, holding yourself back a little also retains that sense of mystery. And having a sense of mystery is one of the key ingredients that creates—and sustains—attraction. Mystery intrigues us. Giving yourself up too easily or making it known that you like him so quickly diminishes any sense of mystery for him. If he knows he’s got you gaga already or if he knows he’s got you all figured out, then what more is there for him to work for? Would the game hide-and-go-seek be any fun at all if at the first sign of the seeker’s difficulty, you pop out and reveal yourself? No, that ruins the fun! And isn’t that quiet guy at your work just a little more sexy because you don’t know what he’s all about?  So, holding back a little and giving that sense of elusiveness not only increases your perceived value, it enhances that mystery element that makes him want you that much more. Holding back gives guys that guesswork and challenge and mental stimulation that they love and crave. That ‘does she or doesn’t she want me’ triggers excitement for him, and holding back is the fuel that drives men wild with strategies to win you over. The key is to always leave him wanting more.

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