• Do you keep dating the “wrong” people, and winding up in the wrong, dead-end relationships?

• Do you feel like you just can’t seem to find any “good,” HIGH-QUALITY people out there that you’re interested in –and the only ones that you ARE interested in aren’t interested in YOU?

• Do your relationships with men just seem to fall FLAT – You start dating a good guy, you think everything is going great – but then he suddenly disappears, goes distant on you, or gives you the old “I really like you, BUT… I’m just not ready for a relationship or commitment right now…”

• Do you seem to have a track record of women breaking up with you, cheating on you, or giving you the same old “You’re a nice guy BUT… I just want to be Friends” routine?

• Does your lack of experience with the opposite sex hold you back and keep you from dating & from having successful romantic relationships?

• OR, Do you think of yourself as an altogether pretty great catch who is smart, successful and attractive – but you just haven’t been able to find & attract that one amazing person who is a perfect match for you to spend the rest of your life with??

Well if any of this sounds like you at all, the end result is still the same – your dating & love life as it stands right now is not where you’d like it to be. You probably thought you’d be blissfully in the relationship of your dreams by now, or enjoying a delicious, passionate marriage with your Soulmate.

I understand how frustrating it feels being single and watching your friends get married and coupled off one by one, seeing other people around you in happy relationships, and feeling like your own love life is not making much progress and you’re starting to wonder if you ever will find love.

If you were given the chance, would you love to just want to cut through all the BS of dating and get yourself an amazing love life as quickly as possible? Well I want to help you finally start WINNING in your love life and get you the delicious dating life or dream relationship that you know you were meant to have! That, my friend is the stuff that makes life truly worth living.

My name is DeAnna Lorraine, I’m a Dating & Relationship Coach, and I solve your biggest problems with DATING & Relationships – And help you find “The One.”

Click HERE to Take the Free “Dating & Relationship Needs Assessment” & Sign up for your Complimentary 30-Minute Dating Strategy Call over the phone to discuss your current love life & learn more about my Date Coaching program for men or women looking to greatly enhance their Dating & Relationship Success.

Ladies – this Blog is for you. I see this problem all the time in my practice, and nearly all of my female clients who first come to me struggle with this issue at first (that is of course before I cure it . That is the problem of not getting asked out and not getting approached by guys. “I never get approached by guys,” they complain, or “Guys never ask me out.” Well, I ask them, what do are you DOING to get them to approach you or ask you out?” I ask. “Well…Nothing…. They just don’t come over,” is the common response. Well honey, I’ve got news for you – you need to understand that getting asked out is actually an ACTIVE process – it is not a passive process. You can’t just sit there and look pretty and do nothing and expect to be approached and asked out Missy. You have to actively “invite” guys to approach you and ask you out. How do you do that? There are a few things to keep in mind that I teach my clients, and these tricks multiply their opportunities often the first time they try them.

#1: Your Energy.

Check your energy before you walk out of the house and step into places like grocery stores, coffee shops, bars, and just walking around town. Are you walking around in a pissed off, negative or cynical mood? Do you get annoyed when guys come up and talk to you or are you walking around with a “F**k off, don’t talk to me” sign on your forehead? You may just be – often without even realizing it. If you are, it’s no surprise men aren’t approaching you. Men can smell this negative energy out like a rat. If you want to get approached and asked out more, your energy should be positive, confident and happy. Think of it as emitting pheromones. Your energy should scream “I love myself, I love men, and I love getting asked out!”

#2: Your Eye Contact:

When you see a guy from across the way that looks attractive, do you make eye contact with him? If a guy looks at you and checks you out, do you look back at him and smile, or do you look away or get all nervous? Well if you’re doing the latter, most men will take it as a signal that you’re not interested, and they’ll walk away, costing you lots of opportunities. Eye contact is a must when you want someone to approach you and ask you out.

#3: Smiling:

Are you smiling a lot when you’re out and about, exuding happiness and friendliness… or do you have a scowl on your face or clam up when a guy talks to you? A smile flashed at a guy is like a green light to come hither. No smile – why would a guy risk his ego to muster up the courage to talk to a girl that isn’t smiling and isn’t making eye contact with him? He won’t. Smiling lures him in like bait on a line.

#4: Your Body Language:

When you’re out and about or you’re out at bars or other public venues, how are you standing and sitting? Are you standing with your arms folded, your body away from the crowd and pulled toward your friend or group of girls? Are you and your girls standing around in a circle like the Great Wall? When a guy talks to you, are you turning away from him, clamming up, looking away, etc.? If so then you deserve a spanking. You’re sending out the message loud and clear: “Don’t talk to me, Don’t touch me! Boys have cooties.”  You need to send signals out that let him know on a subconscious level that you’re available and you’re interested – And that is done by you having warm and open body language, legs crossed toward him, body leaning toward him, and showing him that you’re comfortable with him. It’s what all animals do, and we are animals! Do you think if a peacock were to hide from a male peacock and turn away, act unavailable, and snarl at him, they would never get laid (ahem, reproduce), and alas, neither will women if they do that (or get dates/boyfriends/husbands).

So in sum, women if you want to multiply your dates and the number of men who approach you and ask you out, you need to do your part in actively attracting this and drawing men in. This is what I help my female clients master in the “Attraction Phase” of my women’s “Land the Man” Date Coaching program, along with other skills to turn them into bonafide Man Magnets.

DeAnna Lorraine is a San Diego Dating Coach

Which Love Style are YOU?

1. Jennifer Anniston:
1. Her Love Style? Nice… but Plain, Predictable, and Bor-ing! Aka, “Replaceable.”
2. Lesson Learned: Make sure YOU are not just the ‘ordinary,’ replaceable girl. Be conscious of when you may be becoming predictable and boring in your relationships; Mix it up, and find ways to stand out from other women.

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2. Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt:
1. Brangelina’s Love Style: Exciting, Mysterious, Fun & Unpredictable! The ideal ingredients for a long-lasting, passionate relationship. The only concern here is that there are so many children that they will become the sole focus and the relationship will merely become “all about the kids.”
2. Lesson Learned: Either you’re growing together or you’re growing apart. Make a commitment to regularly try new things with your partner, challenge each other, learn & grow upwards together. Don’t fall into the trap of letting your kids become the sole focus of your lives rather than your relationship with your lover.

3. Leonardo DiCaprio:
1. Love Style: The “Packaging Trap.” Focused primarily on the outside “packaging” without looking very far into the inside. Only dates Supermodels and gorgeous women, but in the end, has nothing to show for them.
2. Lessons Learned: Grow up & get over the ego-boost of having a beautiful trophy girl on your arm and start seeking out partners that you’re compatible with at a deeper level if you actually want a long-lasting, genuine relationship & connection.

4. Kristin Cavallari, Kate Hudson, Jude Law:
1. Love Style: The Magnetic Players: They never have a shortage of dates, enjoy keeping their options open, and are independent, fun, alluring and magnetic!
2. Lesson Learned: When you have a carefree & fun approach to dating and an abundance attitude rather than a scarcity mindset, you will literally act as a “magnet” to others & attract an abundance of options! (See my website for more on adopting the “abundance attitude” & eliminating the “Scarcity” mindset)

5. Will Smith & Jada Pinkett; Barack & Michelle Obama:
1. Their Love Style: “Powerful, Passionate Partnership.” These couples are Best Friends, Power Partners and Supportive Lovers. They embody that of a true complimentary partnership comprised of strong, powerful men and equally strong, assertive women but who balance each other out and challenge each other but without any power struggle. They still have fun together & also understand the importance of keeping the romance alive through regular “Date Nights” and alone time.
2. Lesson Learned: Support each other’s goals and dreams, act as a team, and be friends and lovers. Be sure to maintain your romantic connection through the craziness of your lives through regular bonding activities like Date Nights and romantic getaways.

6. Jessica Simpson:
1. Love Style: Smothering, Clingy, and Wears her Heart on her Sleeve! She is always gushing about her boyfriends, and never leaves her feelings to imagination. In recent interview calling Tony Romo her “future husband,” and immersing herself in the men she dates.
2. Lesson Learned: Avoid wearing your heart on your sleeve and don’t offer up all your feelings in the beginning of the relationship, especially when your partner has not yet expressed his/hers. Whenever you’re tempted to gush about how much you like your new love interest, take a breath, hold it back, and wait. Mystery is key to building attraction.

7. Justin Timberlake:
1. Love Style: “The Serial Monogamist.” JT drifts from one long-term relationship right on into the next and then the next, without ever any time just spent being single and figuring out what he really wants. This wastes a lot of time.
2. Lesson learned: You should know within the first 6 months (1 year at the most) whether or not this person has got wife or husband potential for you; and if it’s been longer than 6 months or a year and you’re still “on the fence” about her/him, still not certain whether she/he is the one….99% of the time, she/he’s not. So break it off sooner and don’t draw it out.

8. Jon & Kate ( + 8 ) :
1. Love Style: Imbalanced, Unhealthy and Manipulative! Kate is far too controlling and manipulative and clearly wears the “pants,” while Jon is far too passive and weak; years of her controlling him and all their decisions with him never asserting himself has resulted in a deflated man, and dysfunctional relationship where the children are the sole focus, and eventually, the marriage’s demise.
2. Lesson Learned: Kate pushed her desires on Jon, and coerced him into doing things he didn’t really want( like having more kids); Women, if you push something on a man that doesn’t really want it but is doing it just to please you, it’s not going to result in a positive outcome. And men, if you don’t really want something, you need to speak up and assert yourself and negotiate rather than giving in just to please your woman.

9. Bill & Hillary Clinton:
1. Love Style: All business & no romance, this pair’s relationship is more like that of business partners than actual lovers.
2. Lesson Learned: If you are a working couple or are in business you’re your partner, don’t get so caught up in the minutia of work and business that you forget about passion and intimacy; Remember that you are partners and lovers first and foremost, and make time to be romantic and sensual with each other. Keep your sex life alive and fresh!

10. Bella & Edward: Vampire Couple of Twilight!
1. Love Style: Dramatic, passionate and unorthodox. Bella is a strong, independent, highly intelligent and assertive woman and Edward is “all man,” They don’t have to argue or compete for the dominant role in the relationship; this is an opportunity for a strong woman be with a man strong enough for her to be vulnerable and let him take the lead.
2. Lesson Learned: Men, Edward represents what women REALLY want in a man; a strong man in and of himself, but without the need to “prove” or exert his strength; a man who takes care of and protects his woman, who is strong enough to be romantic and vulnerable, and who can create a safe haven for women to fully be themselves and reveal their vulnerabilities and desires without fearing that you’ll run away, be threatened or scared off by our emotions. Also, woman love the rare man with enough self control where his focus isn’t wrapped up solely in the end goal of sex, but he is intelligent enough to see the rewards of the long-term. Master these techniques of Edward, and you’ll be a man women won’t be able to resist!

For the full version of these tips or to schedule a Date Coaching or Hypnosis Session to enhance your dating success, simply contact me via email at Deanna@DeannaLorraine.com, or check out the rest of my website!

DeAnna Lorraine

Most girls that men come across fall into the category of “replaceable.” They don’t stand out. Some of these common, “predictable” behaviors in women are:

•    Dumb, dull, and don’t have a lot of insight to contribute
•    Once they like him they confess their all their feelings & get all ‘mushy.’
•    Make themselves too available
•    Sleep with them early on
•    Wrap themselves up in him & don’t have a life or friends outside of him
•    Act really jealous and possessive and clingy and needy
•    Are not emotionally stable
•    Lose themselves in them, then become predictable, boring & unattractive.

Men come across girls like these so often that they almost assume that new women they encounter are going to follow this trend. And, sadly, most girls will. But that’s good news for you, because YOU will be different. That’s because you’ve got me on your side to give you some pointers, as men and ex-boyfriends have deemed me so ‘memorable’ that they could “never find another girl like me again” so “marry me now, damnit!” (yes, every man I’ve ever dated has told me this . So, you’re going to catch him by surprise. And that’s what he’s waiting for, for some girl to be totally different, refreshing and ‘finally’ be something worth changing for and working for!  So in order to not get tossed in this ‘replaceable’ bin within 5 weeks, you’ve therefore got to make yourself MEMORABLE to him. How do you become memorable? Well, first, don’t do any of those things above. Just Now making yourself more memorable will actually involve some inner soul searching to answer these questions and create this attitude.

• What makes you YOU? What sets you apart from the dozens of other women that cross a man’s path every day? What makes you so great to date, anyhow? Define & list your valuable assets.
• What things/traits/qualities/talents do you have to offer someone?
• What interests & hobbies do you have that make you more dynamic?

Take some time to think about this and even write down some answers; this will help strengthen and distinguish your unique identity. They say like attracts like. That means, ‘dull attracts dull,’ and ‘amazing attracts amazing.’ If you’re going after a man who’s vibrant and charismatic and interesting and diverse, you had better be all of those things too! Or else, don’t be disappointed if he isn’t very interested without you making some improvements yourself. Bring something different and of value to the table so he sees that you are stand out from other women. In the most subtle form, don’t be a bump on a log when he’s talking to you. Be witty, offer some interesting insights, challenge his views a little, don’t be too agreeable.

At a deeper level, work to actually become a more genuinely interesting person. Start by taking an honest inventory of your life and activities and friends and even personality traits. How does it fare? Is there anything you wish you were more of, or anything you’d like to expand or add to your life? Maybe you wish you were more funny or interesting? Then work on it. Read more books, watch and read the news every day, work on expanding your vocabulary. Maybe your life just consists of work and friends and you want to add more elements to it. Well, then go do it. Perhaps take up a salsa dancing class or join a hiking group or learn Italian or travel. My point is, the best way to attract your ‘dream man’ is by being that dream partner yourself that has all the qualities that you are seeking. By adding new things to your life, you’ll become a more dynamic & interesting person will have more to talk about on dates and you’ll have more value to bring to the table, which will in turn help to set you apart from other women he comes across. Men are motivated to commit to a woman who excites them. They dump women who bore them. They are infatuated with the spontaneous, adventurous woman. Not the predictable, safe woman. So if you’ve had a string of relationships that seem to share the common theme of a man cheating on you, dumping you, or not wanting to commit to you…perhaps you should evaluate what motivating, exciting factors you have (or are lacking) that drive a man to commitment.

Rochelle Cranberry

As I was sitting there chatting with my best guy friend I had to know what the secrets are, from a mans perspective, as to how women can get the guy they dream about being with to not only notice them, but also want to be with them. Let me just tell you that this guy friend of mine is a very handsome man and a great catch for any woman out there. Here is some of the great dating advice for woman that he helped me come up with.

The first key to getting your dream man to want you is to know how to act and look. The most effective and attractive quality for anybody to possess is self confidence. This is why men that are not ready for commitment prey on women with low self esteem. They are easy to manipulate. A man that is ready for a serious commitment does not want a woman like this because it is just not an attractive quality.

You need to have confidence in yourself and you have to know that you are attractive. You can help yourself out by dressing in a way that makes you feel sexy and you should do anything else you have to including make up and hair to make yourself feel attractive. You also have to get an attitude that you know you look good, but not so much that you come across as arrogant.

The second thing you must do is work on that personality. It is not going to help you to be fake, but you must be pleasant and not be the type to put any pressure on a man. Too many women put pressure on themselves because they are so concerned with finding that perfect guy that the man they are after senses this and gets scared. You cannot be thinking about marriage or even a serious relationship when all you are doing is having a pleasant conversation with a man. Let it be what it is and if it turns into more great, if not move on to the next man.

Last, you have to separate yourself from the pack. My best guy friend said that this is the best dating advice for woman he could ever give. Men do not want to approach a group of women, and they will wait until you are by yourself to make their move. This is because they don’t want to be rejected in front of an audience and they know you are less likely to be influenced by what your friends think if you are by yourself.