I Love Secret Admirers! (Good Attraction Strategy:)

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So, I’ve just gotta say, I just LOVE secret admirers. I don’t care how old I get, how many relationships I’ve been in or what my relationship status is, I just love them. Yes, even me. EVERY woman does. I feel extra inspired to write this entry because, well, I just opened my office door a minute ago to let my client out after her coaching session, and a giant Hershey’s Kiss dropped down in front of me. No note or anything. And last week there was a gorgeous bouquet of flowers also in front of my office door, again with no note… Who IS this? Whoever you are, I’m liking your strategy! And thank you!

Not only do secret admirers leave a girl feeling like, well, a girl, and brings us back to grade school when we would fill up with excitement and suspense whenever we’d find a little note stuffed in our cubby from a secret crush or a Valentine Candy Gram from a mysterious boy who had a fancy for us. But it’s also a great way to make a girl feel special and excited all at the same time, while also firing off feelings of mystery and curiosity in her – all good things to begin a relationship with.

In fact, this is actually a GREAT technique if you are trying to court a woman who you have a crush on from afar that you have a high chance of running into again – say you’ve seen her work out at the gym before, or she lives in your apartment complex, she’s your neighbor or she works in your building – and you want to get her interested in you. So guys, listen up! If you know, or can find out, where her car is, office is or apartment or home is, (without going to creepy stalker status of course (well, just don’t get caught okay;) then start by doing exactly this… Leave an item like a single rose, a big chocolate Hershey’s Kiss or one of those giant fortune cookies, or something even more original… (no naked pictures of you or your penis please, and nothing dirty (we still have no idea why you think those are sexy! LOL), and just leave a single item like that two or three times, spaced out 1 or 2 weeks. No note, just leave it on her windshield, in her mailbox or outside her door where she’ll be sure to see it. This lets her BUILD up her curiosity and suspense… Then, after 3 or 4 items being left there… you can leave a note.

Now with the note, let the note be SHORT and sweet, and FUNNY if you can make it funny or witty, and then just sign it – “Your Secret Admirer,” or “Your Mystery Man,” or nothing at all. But if you leave some title, change it up for every note.

Continue doing this for a few more weeks – leave 3 or 4 notes, or as LONG as you can keep it going for. Be playful in your notes. Be a little cocky even if you can. If you’re too sappy or gushy or complimentary, it’ll come off as creepy or desperate. You do not want to come off as creepy or desperate; the goal is not to have her call the police on you or be waiting outside her door for you with a baseball bat so you get unsuspectingly pummeled – You want to come off as CREATIVE and refreshingly ORIGINAL and INTERESTING. …DIFFERENT. All good things that a woman wants.

So, just be patient and let the curiosity and anticipation in her build and build, till she’s practically about to burst because she’s so curious. When she finally leaves a note on her door that says something like “Who IS this??” (and if she’s interested, she will. Unless she has a boyfriend or husband or is a lesbian, 99% of the time, she WILL “play back” with you.) Write a note back that says, “C’mon. I’m not that easy ; )” Tease her a little more, and make her work for it! Don’t give yourself away so soon. I know its hard, but the longer you wait and build this suspense, the more bonded and attracted and close she’ll feel towards you and the more she’ll be building you up in her mind. You’re the spontaneous Man of Mystery to her right now, you’ve got a bunch of leverage – stay in this position as long as possible. Leave little clues about what you look like or who you are, but don’t give yourself away just yet. Then finally, you can say something like “If you want to find out who this is, let’s meet for a drink. Leave me your number or let me know if Thursday (or pick a night) at 8 at (Pick a nearby bar or restaurant) sounds good for a drink.” Then, make it happen!

Good luck, and let me know how it goes, you Cassanovas

Love, DeAnna

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Reader’s Dating Dilemma of the Week! NEW

Reader Dating Dilemma of the Week: Frustrations with Approaching Women!

Dear Ms. Lorraine,
I’m writing to you because I’m seriously upset and discouraged with the lack of results I’m getting with women and my failures in approaching women. I have been working on getting better at approaching women by trying to say hello to just about every woman I come across, even if their back is to me in some cases.
An incident today sent me over the edge and makes me just want to throw in the towel & just accept my fate of loneliness. So, as I was in line at a take-out place on my way home from work, I made eye contact with the woman that was last in line before she turned her back to me. As she turned her back, I said hello to her. She initially didn’t respond, so I said hello again. She then turned around and said hello.

As I waited in line, the woman in front of me was with the women being waited on at the cash register. During this time the woman waiting at the cash register and the woman in front of me began making eye contact but not saying anything. They began snickering, so I’m assuming it was about me. They had a small boy with them (he had sunglasses on), but I don’t think they were laughing at him.

This has really affected my confidence, and I was feeling pretty good up to that point. I’m depressed about it, and can’t seem to quit dwelling on the situation. Maybe I need wait on this approaching thing until I get in shape or something. I just feel bad about myself right now.

-Tom, 38

DeAnna’s Answer…

Dear Tom,

First of all, I’m really glad that you’ve been taking action on this problem and actively going out and talking to people. That’s where it all starts – with talking to EVERYONE, no matter who they are. As for as what happened, I’m sorry that you feel bad about that and you decided to let that get you down. But in actuality, I consider that a non-incident. First of all, you have no evidence that the lady was even snickering at you to begin with, so to come to that assumption with no evidence is hasty and false, and worse, to let that hasty conclusion with no merit to it bring your self-esteem down and halt the rest of your efforts – is ludicrous! Why are you giving this stranger that you don’t even know and you’ll never see again so much power to affect you?  Aren’t you more powerful and in control of your state you’re your confidence than that?  And aside from that, let’s just say she was in fact snickering at you, perhaps because you said hello twice to her when her back was turned to you, and perhaps she wasn’t in a mood for small-talking or what not…. do you really care? What about if you just laughed to yourself and found it funny instead, patting yourself on the back for trying something new and stepping outside your comfort zone, brushing it off and moving right along to someone else? The fact that you even talked to someone when you wouldn’t have before is an accomplishment; THAT’S what I want you to focus on, these small continuous accomplishments  -  NOT on the actual outcomes. Because there is NO such thing as ‘failure’ my friend –only feedback! You MUST remember this and live this out, because it’s true. LET GO of the outcome and whatever a woman’s reaction is and understand that you’re going to have a heck of a lot more of those along the way, but they’ll get fewer and fewer the more you do and the positive interactions will get  more and more frequent the more approaches you do. It’s called “LEARNING.”

Do you think if you learned to snowboard for the first time you might fall a few times before you could go down the hill? Ummm… yes. You fall DOZENS of times. Just like with EVERY single sport and EVERY new skill and thing that you learn and have ever learned! Did you ever fall a couple times when you first learned to, I don’t know, WALK? Didn’t you fall over a couple of times when you first learned to ride a bike? What would happen if the very first time you fell when learning to ride your bike, you threw a fit, got all depressed, kicked all your gear off and gave up on the whole damn sport simply because you fell once? You’d never learn for one. And for two, you have proven to yourself, time and time again, that your brain is fully capable of learning a new skill. All beings learn. Even clams and plants have a learning curve. The only reason why some people learn a new skill faster than others is because they practice more. That’s all it is.

That also explains why you see every day average looking or even downright unattractive men walking around with beautiful girlfriends or are able to what seems like ‘effortlessly’ approach and charm women. Believe me, they were not somehow born knowing how to do that. Well, most aren’t anyway. It’s only the result of a decision that they made that they wouldn’t let their appearances be a limitation for them anymore and, and the result of practice – doing it over and over again, each time learning from the ‘feedback’ they get and improving and improving each time till they can achieve their desired outcome nearly every time.

And do you think it would make any difference at all if you ‘waited till you were in better shape’ and then tried again a year later? No! because you still have to get through the learning phase regardless, no matter what kind of shape you’re in, and that will always take some falling down; that part’s inevitable and there’s no getting around that. One can never get from A to C without first crossing through B. But you CAN control your attitude through it and the way you deal with the inevitable fallings. If you just have fun with it and laugh when you fall down, learn from the feedback, and try it again you’re going to succeed, accelerate the process, and have a far more enjoyable and positive experience along the way, but if every time you fall you get all depressed and bent out of shape and let it affect your mood and confidence, you’re  going to make it a heck of a lot harder on yourself, you’ll slow down the process and you’ll have a negative & un-enjoyable experience along the way. So why make it harder on yourself David, why not just have fun with it and take each new encounter as another story for the books?

But In order to get over the initial hurt and ‘sting’ of being turned down, you have to face it head on and go through it a number of times, as each time  stings less and less until its completely gone and it doesn’t even phase you. Just like when you work out and use muscles that you haven’t in a while you get sore afterward, but after your muscles and body gets used to the routine, you’re no longer sore after your workout. Well this is the same exact thing! All you have to do is simply pass through this short little beginning stage and then you’re out on the other side – happy and confident, successful with women, and able to approach and attract women easily and effortlessly.

Don’t stop now at this little bump in the road when you’re doing so well, keep going ahead!!

And if you need more help, sign up for my Men’s 90-Day Coaching Plan and we’ll eliminate your approaching issue in less than a few weeks

~DeAnna

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DeAnna in Pacific Magazine’s Valentines Issue!

DeAnna was among a few select Dating Experts in California that was asked to be featured in Pacific San Diego Magazine’s special February Valentine’s issue and cover story, What is Love, along with Dr. Drew and Tough Love’s Host Steven Ward.Check out the feature story they wrote on her Date Coaching & Matchmaking expertise in the exclusive interview!Pick up a copy at newsstands all over San Diego county.

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DeAnna Decodes Men & Women’s Secret VALENTINES Language!

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12 Hidden Truths about Valentine’s Day EXPOSED: Mens VS. Womens Valentine’s Experience!

By Dating Coach DeAnna Lorraine

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Want to know what women and men are REALLY thinking, wishing and wanting when it comes to the big day?? Since I “hear it all”  from BOTH sexes, I’ve put together a handy survival guide that decodes common Valentine’s Day phrases and behaviors from girls and guys so you can really know what’s up this year and pass any hidden traps your with flying colors!

#1. It’s known to women as the ‘barometer’ of the relationship. Anything you do and say is a TEST and will reveal how you really feel about her and the relationship. Proceed cautiously and beware of danger traps!

#2. She’s secretly hoping that this is the time you will “prove” your true feelings to her. (Through grandiose romantic overtures, small black boxes with sparkly things inside, serenades and ridiculous displays of red roses.)

#3. It’s a major unspoken competition among women and their friends since the beginning of time – over who’s got the biggest rock, the prettiest roses, the most glamorous dinner, and most romantic (i.e. ‘generous’) boyfriend or husband. You’d better out-do Tony and Joe and make sure she WINS! If your girlfriend loses, YOU lose. And onto the sofa-bed you go.

(Side-note: She says, “Omigosh Sweetie, did you hear what Jessica’s boyfriend got her for Valentine’s?? How sweet!” = This is Code for: “Omigosh Sweetie, Did you see what you now have to do/buy for me so that I can do better than Jessica?? Listen up!”

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#4. She’s looking at how you sign the card – “From?” “Love” or “Best”? “Yours Truly?”  She IS waiting to rip the card open! Write wisely.

#5. She says, “Oh honey, whatever we do is fine. I’ll be happy with anything.” = A Trap! Don’t fall prey to this, oh naïve men.

Interpret as, “You’d better know me well enough to know exactly what I want and plan the most elaborate dinner and Valentine’s evening every or ELSE….” (“or else” = ‘rewards’ taken away.)

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#6. All girls secretly want jewelry on Valentine’s Day– period.

All men secretly want sex on Valentine’s Day – period.

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#7. Most women will hold off on dumping a guy till after Valentine’s Day so they can see can see what kind of a gift and dinner they get.

Most guys will dump a girl before Valentine’s Day so they won’t have to get them dinner or a gift.

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#8. Sorry, Ladies. Your man isn’t making a mad dash to the flower shop to show you how much he cares. The real reason he just dropped $400 on a dozen roses is because he enjoys the comfort of his bed and has no desire to sleep on the couch. They do it because they’re SCARED of what’s going to happen to them if they DON’T.

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#9. Woman receiving Jewelry = “He loves me. He cares!”

Man giving Jewelry = “I’m hoping I’ll get a 3-way tonight.”

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#10. The more expensive and ridiculous the display of roses, teddy bears, or flowers, and the more people are around to see it, the happier she’ll be. She wants to show off the biggest thing possible to as many people as possible.

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#11. Post-Valentine’s Day, Woman’s thoughts: “I wish Valentines Day was every day…”

Post-Valentine’s Day, Man’s thoughts: “I emptied my bank account on Valentine’s Day, and all I got was this lousy stuffed animal.”

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And Truth #12…   If you FORGET the V-day = Forget the V-Jay-Jay.

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Join the Valentines “Blog Crawl,” Feb. 8th – 14th!

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Join me & other Dating Experts on a Valentine’s Day “Blog Crawl” Starting Monday, February 8^th

Discover How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day Single-Style and Dating Tips to Find Love!

(February 6, 2010) Better than a bar crawl, the first ever Valentine’s Day “Blog Crawl” raises awareness (instead of money) for the positive aspects of celebrating Valentine’s Day as a single adult. While this holiday often causes single women everywhere to cringe, the Blog Crawl has been created to shift that reaction to a more upbeat outlook.

Beginning Monday, February 8^th, guest bloggers from some of the Internet’s most popular sites, will be sharing their insights to help single women enjoy a day that is traditionally for couples, and offer advice for finding the love they want.

Unite with countless single readers to take in this virtual tour of the web’s best dating experts. Featured guest bloggers include:

Monday, 2/8: The Dating Goddess (www.DatingGoddess.com) who has one of the top-ranked dating advice sites and has published more than a dozen books about dating in the Adventures of Delicious Dating after 40 book series.

Tuesday, 2/9: Alyssa Johnson, MSW, LCSW, of www.RemarriageSuccess.com helps divorced parents move into new relationships and successful step families, and is the author of over 250 published articles and 4 books, with an active counseling practice.

Wednesday, 2/10: Laurie Davis is the founder of eFlirt Expert and co-host of the weekly web show, LoveNation. She helps singles market themselves to become successful daters, is the current NY Tech Dating Examiner and a contributing writer for The Guyds.

Thursday, 2/11: SingleMomSeeking.com is one of the best dating bloggers specializes in being a parent while looking for love (about.com Guide to Dating) and author of Single Mom Seeking: Play Dates, Blind Dates, and Other Dispatches from the Dating World.

Friday, 2/12: Terry Hernon MacDonald, expert dating blogger at www.HappyGirlMusing.com is the author of the hot selling ebook, How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams.

Saturday, 2/13: DeAnna Lorraine, innovative Dating and Relationship Coach and NLP Practitioner, helps clients transform their love life to succeed with the opposite sex at www.DeAnnaLorraine.com

Sunday, 2/14: Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, The Dating Coach has helped over 2,000 singles to successfully jump start or accelerate their search for love. She is also a speaker, workshop leader, author of MANifesting Mr. Right and founder of www.NeverTooLate.biz.

Guest bloggers have been selected for their specific expertise to inform, inspire, and motivate singles to enjoy what is normally the most dreaded retail holiday of the year. In addition, single women, whether divorced, widowed or never married can learn from the sage dating wisdom these experts share.

Ronnie Ann Ryan, creator of the Valentine’s Day Blog-a-thon said, “This is a ground-breaking opportunity for single women to rethink their reaction to Valentine’s Day and transform the holiday experience into something enjoyable and positive.”

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Valentines Day: Pro or Anti? Share YOUR Views!

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So Valentines Day is right around the corner and fast approaching…Obviously.  “Love” is in the air… What are the general sentiments of everyone? Of course I’m doing lots of promotional stuff for Valentines Day, and there’s cards and teddy bears and enormous red heart-shaped boxes of chocolates and roses everywhere you look, but what’s the real meaning behind Valentines Day?

Is it just an excuse for Hallmark and other card and teddy bear distributors to make a crap-load of money and buy themselves new houses and vacations once a year? Is it really a holiday that brings two people closer, or does it actually create lots of unrealistically high expectations and disappointed girlfriends across the nation?

And what about single people, are they just supposed to be excluded from the whole holiday and made to feel depressed because they are spending it alone? Is Valentines Day out-dated on the whole? Well my thoughts are that Valentines Day is, for the most part, an out-dated Holiday that puts a lot of pressure on the person you are dating – but really, its mostly the guy with all the pressure, with women usually having all these preconceived  all high hopes and expectations in her head of what she hopes her guy does, that he needs to live up to (yet he doesn’t even know what they are! And if he falls short, or his surprises were off-base, or if God forbid one of her girlfriends gets an even BETTER Valentines celebration from her man, then it all goes down the tubes and both parties are left disappointing, not closer.

On another note, there shouldn’t be just ONE day of the year where you appreciate and romance your partner – romance and appreciation should come every day of the year! And how much more exciting are roses or a surprise gift when you get them on a random day in the year, not just on the one day of the year that everyone is ’supposed’ to get them?

But on the other hand, if we were to do away with Valentines Day altogether… I might be a bit sad in all honesty. If the man I was dating told me he didn’t want to celebrate Valentines Day, I think I might miss those singing candy grams and chocolates and all that red and pink love-dovey stuff…. What do you think?

Ok, your turn: I want to hear YOUR thoughts, opinions, rants and/or Raves one way or the other of Valentines Day. And strong opinions always encouraged! And if you’re a total ‘Romance Rebel,’ tell me why. Also, anyone who does alternatives to Valentines Day, or celebrates it in a unique OR rebellious way, whether you’re single or in a relationship, share with us! Let’s get the discussion going!

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DeAnna on “LifeGasms” Radio Show’s Love Panel Feb. 2!

DeAnna will be on the Talk Radio Show LifeGasms for a very special Valentine’s love episode, on Tuesday, February 2nd at 9am PST, 12pm EST! DeAnna will be part of the ‘Love Panel,’ along with several other nationally-known industry experts, discussing lots of different hot topics relating to love, dating, sex, romance and more. Tune in for this entertaining and very informative show!

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YOUR Dating Resolutions for 2010!

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Ah, It’s a New Year. And at the risk of sounding cliche, it’s time for a new and improved You. The theme is personal growth and positive change. If you’re single, I can bet that you probably have done things this past year in your dating life that just didn’t work. You probably dating some people that were wrong for you and made some mistakes that you don’t want to repeat. But we all know that if you’re not where you want to be, you need to figure out what’s not working and change it if you want different results. As the saying goes, “If you’ve done what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” Or in other words, they say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So now, as you begin on a nice, clean slate in the new year, resolve to let THIS be the year you finally make the right changes once and for all and find the love that you’re looking for. Based on top lessons from clients I’ve observed throughout the year and the things I’ve found to be the biggest reasons for singles getting stuck in a rut and not finding success in their dating life, I’ve compiled a list of 10 resolutions for you to make in your dating life that if you stick to them and live out, will make the difference in your dating life and rapidly accelerate your search for finding and attracting The One. So make these resolutions this year, and notice the different results you get. I want a full report people!

1. Get ACTIVE, and Put yourself OUT there! Stop making excuses for yourself to not truly put yourself out there. Just like anything that you’ve gotten in your life, getting the relationship you want or an active dating life takes you getting out of your house, going OUT there, and putting time, effort and commitment into it every week, a little bit a day. And whatever excuses you have that’s preventing you from fully putting yourself out there, do whatever you need to do to eliminate them as roadblocks now. If it’s that extra weight you’ve got that’s hindering your confidence or holding you back, then put an action plan into place to shed those pounds beginning now. If it’s lack of confidence or dating or attraction skills that are keeping you in your comfort zone, seek out the resources or advice you’re looking for and acquire the skills, so it isn’t a problem anymore. (By the way, many of those roadblocks can be easily eliminated with Hypnosis. Hypnosis is extremely effective at quickly and permanently resolve common issues such as: Weight loss, Quitting Smoking, Improving Self-Confidence, Eliminating Anxiety, Increasing Motivation, and others. For rapid results I recommend starting the new year off with a Hypnosis session or package of 3 to eliminate all those issues that have held you back once and for all so you can finally achieve your relationship! The 90-Day Love Attraction Coaching Plan includes Hypnosis. Contact me for details.) So starting January 1^st, get off your butt. No more excuses.
   

1. Change your Mindset toward Dating. Make Dating FUN! Stop focusing on all the lack of available men, women and opportunities there are and start focusing on all the abundance of great singles there are – and you’ll attract more of it. Don’t dwell on how frustrating dating is or think of dating like a chore and instead think of dating as a fun ADVENTURE, where anything can happen along the way! Relax and enjoy the journey, start doing things you enjoy and it will BE more enjoyable for you. Adopt the mindset that I use that there  “Is NO such thing as Failure -  only Feedback!”

1. Decide what you want, make a List, and stick to it! Stop dating blindly. Don’t waste more than 3 dates on people that don’t fit your criteria. At this point, if you’re serious about finding “The One,” and you’re sick of dilly-dallying around, you need to figure out exactly what you want – as well as what you don’t want. What are your “Must-Have” criteria and requirements? What are your “Deal-Breakers?” You need to have more than just a flimsy mental list, take some time and write them out and make a list of at least 10 of these non-negotiable criteria for what you must have and won’t settle for. Then make a commitment to use these lists as your barometer that you compare all your dates to. Find out if they meet those requirements within the first 3 dates, and do not continue dating them past 3 dates if they don’t – no matter how hot, rich, or sexy they are!

1. Develop and execute a “Dating Strategy Plan” for your ideal relationship. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Never is that saying more applicable – yet underused – than in your dating life. Would you start your own business without a Business Plan? Would you travel across the country without a Roadmap? Hell no. What does YOUR Relationship Attraction Plan look like?  Based on your criteria and requirements for what you’re looking for in a partner, map out specifically where you will go, what you will do and when you will go to find and meet people that fit those criteria. What groups or clubs or activities will you sign up for? What places, events or venues will you go to during the week, and when? Map it out, create an actual plan and schedule for your weeks, and print it out and hang it up where you will see it every day.

1. Practice ASSERTIVENESS. How are you going to get what you want if you don’t know how to ask for it? Make a commitment to state your requests, stop expecting people to read your mind or instinctively know what you want. ASK for what you want – with people you’re dating, in the bedroom, and in life – and you will get what you want.

1. If you want a partner, BE a partner. You can’t expect to find and attract someone who has all these qualities that you personally do not have. In order to find the perfect partner for you, you need to make sure that YOU have all the qualities yourself that you’re looking for in a partner and are living the life that you want, or are actively working towards it.

1. Be the “CHOOSER.” Stop getting into relationships just because someone wants you really bad or aggressively pursues you. I know it can be very flattering when someone wants us and pursues us, but if you’re not really feeling them or they don’t meet your criteria, remember that YOU have the ultimate choice and YOU need to choose them. Just because someone chooses you doesn’t mean you have to choose them.

1. FLIRT! If you want to rapidly open the floodgates and fill your pipeline up with a continuous flow of prospects, you need to master the art of flirting. Get good at flirting, Flirt often and everywhere. Smile whenever you talk to people, make lots of eye contact and be playful and teasing. Flirting creates more opportunities and allows you to capitalize on the opportunities you get.

1. Master your First Impression. First impressions MATTER. Within the first 3 seconds of a new encounter…we are judged and evaluated, and you make an indelible impression. Depending on your physical appearance and attire, you will either intrigue and attract someone, or turn them off. So if 3 seconds can determine your fate on a date, and can make or break your opportunity with someone…wouldn’t it make sense to do everything you can to control YOUR first impression, and make sure that it’s the best impression possible. You never know who you will meet and when, so dress like you’re about to meet the love of your life every date and put your best face forward. Don’t cut corners. Paying attention to the details of your first impression – like having a clean car, ironing your clothes, spritzing on fragrance or doing your make-up at home rather than rushing in the car on your way over there – will pay off.

1. Stop settling for the “BTN” Guy or Girl. You know you’re guilty of it -  the “Better Than Nothing” relationship. Heck, everyone gets lonely from time to time when they’re single; it’s inevitable. But stop getting into relationships or dating people that you know are below your criteria or aren’t right for you just because they’re “better than being alone.” It may seem like a short-term fix for you but its far worse in the long run and ends up wasting far more time and emotional energy, and it will cause you more pain than good.

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The 90-Day Coaching Plan Details

See either the MEN’S 90-Day Coaching Plan or WOMEN’S 90-Day Coaching Plan

The Men’s 90-Day Love & Relationship Attraction Coaching Plan

Targets & Solidifies the 3 Major areas
necessary to Achieve Total Success with Women!

For: My most popular & effective plan, Designed for men who want to achieve total success with women, develop an active and exciting dating life filled with quality women, and meet and attract their perfect match

• Part I: Developing & Solidifying Your “Inner Game” ~ Confidence, Self-Image, Identity,  Self Improvement

–      You will Break through any lingering limiting beliefs and self-doubt that has been holding you back and resolve any unconscious inner conflicts

–      You will create a powerful personal identity, tap into your own personal power and develop extreme Inner confidence that radiates from the inside-out.

• Part II: Developing & Solidifying Your “Outer Game” (”Romantic Market Value”): Maximizing your Physical Appearance, Style, Personality & Humor; Strengthening your “Alpha Male” & Masculine Presence, As well as any other major ‘Life Area’ that needs improvement and goal-setting such as: Career, Income, Physical Health, Weight, Personal Relationships, Social, etc.

• Part III: Developing & Solidifying Your essential Skills:

–      Successful Approaching Skills. You will overcome your Approach Anxiety and eliminate any lingering fears you have about approaching women! In just a few weeks you will learn how to approach women anytime, anywhere, and always know what to say to attract them.

–      Effective & Persuasive Communication Skills: Conversational & Social skills, Rapport-Building, etc. You will know how to communicate and connect with women easily and effortlessly. You will be able to intuitively sense what they want and need and deliver it to them in a way that attracts them.

–      Attraction Skills: You will know how Attraction really works, How to build it, Enhance it, and Sustain it, as what kills it. Chemistry-Creating & Flirting Skills. Create a winning first impression in her mind.

–      Interpreting Women’s Body Language, Communication & Behavior. You will be able to read their body language and facial expressions, Indicators of Interest, how women test you and how to spot and pass their tests to put you in the winning category.

–      Understanding & Communication with Women: You will discover what women really want, What Attracts them & drives them, How they communicate, relate & ‘Operate,’ What they unconsciously want & need in a man, How to satisfy their desires, communicate & connect with them; How to succeed with them

–      “Seduction” Skills: You will know what women want in a Lover; when Kissing, in Sex, & Foreplay, Romance & Enhancing Sex Appeal

–      Dating Skills: Where to Meet Quality Women and the specific type of women you’re looking for, When to go & What to do, How to build dating and meeting new women into your schedule and lifestyle easily and naturally and make it enjoyable. You will know how to Act & What to do ON & In-between Dates in order to succeed with women; Date Planning & preparation

–      Online Dating Skills: You will know how to effectively search online, how to best communicate, ‘flirt’ and engage women to greatly increase your response rate & dates, How to maximize your accounts and online dating success.

–      Successful Relationship Skills: You will learn the skills necessary to develop and maintain a successful, healthy, passionate relationship and sustain attraction and excitement over time.

Both Plans also Include:

• We have Weekly 1-Hour Coaching sessions in my office in San Diego, CA or over the phone, Skype or Webcam (Add 15% if in person due to limited spots)
• Hypnosis & NLP Sessions and powerful,proven techniques and methods used by the top Success Coaches
• Ongoing Support and accountability in-between Coaching sessions
• Access to my private exclusive ‘Client Center’ which has reading material, a place for logging & journaling discoveries, wins and challenges along the way, client Goal Tracking, Session Recap forms, and more.
• Plus enjoyable Coaching Assignments and Tasks in-between sessions to keep you moving forward, maximize your growth & lock in your success
• Unique Dating “Scorecards” with a fun Point System makes the process that much more fun & results-focused
• Leave every session inspired, motivated, excited…and significantly closer to your ultimate goal!
• If you’re going to date & search for “The One”….you might as well make the process FUN!
• Option to add Matchmaking & Personal Search onto your plan for an additional fee, but discount on overall package if you choose to have both services

The Women’s 90-Day Total Love-Attraction Plan!

My most popular & effective plan for women, this is a 3-month Coaching plan that Targets & Solidifies the 3 Major areas and all related areas
necessary to Achieve Total Success with Men & Attract your Soulmate

Who should Enroll in it:

If you are a woman who is single and frustrated with her dating results, and eager and ready to meet the man you’re going to marry asap!

What the Plan Consists of:

• Part I: Developing & Solidifying Your “Inner Game” ~ Confidence, Self-Image, Identity, & Self Improvement

–      You will Break through any lingering limiting beliefs, negative emotions, and self-doubt that has been holding you back and resolve any unconscious inner conflicts

–      You will create a powerful & magnetic personal identity and develop extreme Inner confidence that radiates from the inside-out.

• Part II: Developing & Solidifying Your “Outer Game” (or what I call “Romantic Market Value”): Maximizing your Physical Appearance, Style & Personality.  Any other major ‘Life Area’ that needs improvement and goal-achievement such as: Weight-loss, Career, Income, Physical Health, Personal Relationships, Social, etc. Strengthening Feminine Presence.

• Part III: Developing & Solidifying Your essential Skills:

–      Effective & Persuasive Communication Skills with Men: Conversational & Social, Rapport-Building, etc. You will know how to communicate and connect with men easily and effortlessly. You will be able to intuitively sense what they want and need and deliver it to them in a way that attracts them. Become more approachable and alluring, and eliminate any lingering fears you have about approaching & talking to men!

–      Attraction Skills; Enhancing your Attraction & Desirability: You will know how Attraction really works for men, How to build it, Enhance it, Sustain it as well as What kills it for men. Learn how to successfully flirt and create chemistry from the get-go, how to be spot and pass all of men’s secret ‘tests’ they put women through while dating to determine whether you’re a “Keeper” or a “Tosser,” Learn how to be placed in the category of “Girlfriend” or “Marriage Material” and never again be placed in the category of “One-night stand,” or “Temporary” girl or “Friend” again.

–      Interpreting Men’s Body Language, Communication & Behavior. You will be able to read their body language and facial expressions, etc. You‘ll learn how men are responding to you and how to gain their attention and affection and signal to them that you are “different” and “special.”

–      Understanding & Communication with Men: You will discover what men really want, What Attracts them and motivates them, How they communicate, relate & ‘Operate,’ What they unconsciously want & need in a woman and How to satisfy their desires and needs, How to communicate & connect with them on “their level”; How to motivate them to want to commit to you and open their heart to you so you can gain the unconditional love and respect from the man you want.  You will transform your relationship with men forever!

–      The Art of Female “Seduction”: You will learn what men really want in a Lover and how to give it to them; you’ll learn Kissing, Sex, & Foreplay tips and secrets that will make you irreplaceable, How to keep things fresh, sexy and surprising, and Romance & Enhancing Sex Appeal and more.

–      Dating Skills: Understanding the present Dating/Mating Game; Discover WHERE to Meet QUALITY Men and especially the specific type of men YOU’RE looking for, When to go & What to do to meet and attract them (and especially…your Soulmate!) How to build dating and meeting new men into your schedule and lifestyle easily and naturally and make the process enjoyable. You will know how to Act & What to do ON Dates AND In-between Dates in order to succeed with men and keep them attracted, intrigued and thinking about you; Date Planning & prepping secrets.

–      Online Dating Mastery Skills: You will know how to effectively search online, how to create profiles that will get massive attention and responses, how to best communicate, ‘flirt’ and engage men  online to significantly increase your response rate & quantity and quality of your dates, How to maximize your accounts and online dating success.

–      Successful Relationship Skills: You will learn how to effectively choose the right partners who are compatible for you and quickly spot and weed out the wrong men, how to test for compatibility as well as for warning signs & ‘Red Flags.’ You’ll learn how to manifest and search for your Soul-mate. You’ll learn the secrets and skills necessary to develop and maintain a successful, healthy, passionate relationship and sustain attraction, excitement, love and commitment over time.

–      Other Must-Know Things you’ll Learn:

• The special challenges that working, successful women face & why it’s so difficult for them to find a man
• The unique challenges that Divorced women face & why it’s so difficult for them to find a man
• Why Men Lost Interest, Cheat, or won’t Commit to some women
• How to Catch his Attention Immediately & Stand Out amongst your competition
• What Men are really looking for in the first 5 Dates, and how to Breeze through them
• The Fatal Mistakes Women make early on that will send Men Running
• The Subtle “Tests” Men Give you in the Early Dating Stages, How to Spot and Pass them
• The Women Men fall in love with & want to marry…And how to be her
• What makes a woman ‘desirable’ & ‘Memorable’ in a man’s eye?
• Maintaining Interest & Taking it to the next Level of Commitment
• The Secrets to being a Man Magnet
• The “Supermodel Principle”
• My exclusive C.H.A.R.I.S.M.A. Formula for Attracting a Man & Winning his heart
• …and More!

Both Plans also Include:

• We have Weekly 1-Hour Coaching sessions in my office in San Diego, CA or over the phone, Skype or Webcam (Add 15% if in person due to limited spots)
• Hypnosis & NLP Sessions and powerful,proven techniques and methods used by the top Success Coaches
• Ongoing Support and accountability in-between Coaching sessions
• Access to my private exclusive ‘Client Center’ which has reading material, a place for logging & journaling discoveries, wins and challenges along the way, client Goal Tracking, Session Recap forms, and more.
• Plus enjoyable Coaching Assignments and Tasks in-between sessions to keep you moving forward, maximize your growth & lock in your success
• Unique Dating “Scorecards” with a fun Point System makes the process that much more fun & results-focused
• Leave every session inspired, motivated, excited…and significantly closer to your ultimate goal!
• If you’re going to date & search for “The One”….you might as well make the process FUN!
• Option to add Matchmaking & Personal Search onto your plan for an additional fee, but discount on overall package if you choose to have both services

*Rates: Rates vary between $449 – $569 a month, please call or submit a Consultation request for most accurate and up-to-date rates. I also operate on a sliding scale and offer extremely flexible and affordable payment plans to make my plan affordable for anyone.

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Happy Valentine’s Day! Whether you’re Single or Coupled this year, I’ve got the perfect gifts for you. Give Yourself or someone you care about the gift that will change your life this year.

FINALLY… Its time to grab the bull by the horns and take CONTROL of your life and love life this year. The year 2010 is The Year of the Tiger, which promises far reaching results for those that seize opportunities. So it’s time for you to make a change. Let THIS be the LAST Valentine’s Day you ever spend alone, and let THIS be the year that you finally live the life you want and get the amazing RELATIONSHIP that you’re ready for! As an added incentive for you to follow through with your goals, I’ve slashed prices and put together some amazing Valentine’s specials for you, so take advantage of them now before rates go back up.

Valentine’s Special #1: Invest in Yourself

Take a full $100 OFF my Men’s or Woman’s most popular & effective coaching plan, The 90-Day Love Attraction Coaching Plan! PLUS  I will also throw in a FREE Online Dating Profile Review & Makeover (valued at $149+) plus Online Dating assistance, if you sign up between now and January 4th (Or until spots are taken – spots are limited and are going quickly. Rates will go back up to normal after February 16th). Start off the New Year by breaking through those roadblocks that have been hindering you, breaking OUT of your single rut and rapidly begin meeting and dating quality people that you want. This is the accelerated short-cut pass to the marriage alter (or if it’s just an active & successful dating life you’re after right now, then you’ll have your calendar full at a minimum) (Read more about the Men’s & Women’s 90-Day Plan HERE). Join the rest of my success stories and in just 3 months you will massively improve your desirability and enhance your confidence and attractiveness from the inside-out while also rapidly attracting your match. To take advantage of this special discount, submit the contact form at the bottom of this page right now while the offer still stands. Make THIS be the year that you do it right – and let me help you finally find the love that you’re ready for.

Valentine’s Gift Certificates

Get someone you care about the perfect gift this year that’s totally unique!

For Singles: Do you have a friend who is single and really wants to find love? Anyone who seems to be “stuck” and experiencing frustrations with dating, or recently coming out of a divorce or break-up? Or perhaps you know someone who really wants to get out of their rut, put their life on track and map out and achieve their goals? If so, they would love the gift of a Free Dating, Relationship or Life Coaching & Strategy Session! Give them the perfect gift that they will truly enjoy and benefit from, and one that will change their life. What a perfect way for them to kick off the New Year – let this year be the year that they make love happen!

The Dating, Relationship, or Life  Coaching & Strategy Session includes:

• A 75-minute In-person or Phone Coaching Session with me, where we will discuss their current situation and explore their biggest dilemmas or problems they are having.
• Specify your option during check-out, between: Date Coaching, Relationship Coaching, or Life Coaching Session beforehand (or let the receiver decide!)
• Clarity on their issue(s)
• 100% honest and expert Feedback, Advice & Support
• Specific Strategies & Solutions for Improvement
• Plus your gift will also include a $100 Gift Certificate for my services for them so if they should want to work with me for additional sessions afterward, they can simply apply the credit towards it. So you are giving them numerous gifts in one!
• Purchase the Gift Certificate now for only $99.00! (Session valued normally at $169, price will go back up after FEB. 16th) Download certificate(s) immediately! OR choose to have it sent to you in a beautiful gift certificate and romantically wrapped packaging.

Options

75-Minute $99.00 90-Minute $149.00

For Couples: Give your Lover or a Couple the perfect gift this year – the beautiful gift of renewing & enhancing your Relationship and spicing up your Romance with a gift certificate for a Romance Enhancement Session!

The Romance Enhancement Coaching Session includes:

• A full (Choose between 75-Minute and 90-Minute) Coaching Session with me to rejuvenate, spice up and strengthen your romance! Areas we will cover include:
• Re-ignite the Chemistry, Passion & Fun in your Relationship so it’s just like when you first fell in love!

• Learn new skills and activities to do with each other that will promote FUN and excitement, improved sexual intimacy, and enhanced attraction and desirability.
• Learn ways to challenge and stimulate each other mentally and physically, and restore playfulness, presence and passion.
• Leave the session feeling a new sense of excitement & attraction toward each other, and get ready for a new ‘Honeymoon’ phase!

Purchase the Gift Certificate for only $99.00 Now for 75-minute Session or $149 for 90-minute session (normally $179 and $249)! Download certificate(s) immediately! OR choose to have it sent to you in a beautiful gift certificate and romantically wrapped packaging!

Request your Valentine’s Discount for the Men’s or Women’s 90-Day Love-Attraction Coaching Plan here! You will be contacted right away.

Options

75-Minute $99.00 90-Minute $149.00

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